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Are you really ambitious?
Everyone in his life has some goals that want to achieve. Therefore that one who likes to be the best in every manner, he forgets that there are other thinks for which are worth to live. The people who are too much ambitious make their life and the life of those around him much harder.
Example for a woman
A 30 year woman in love with her job, she doesn’t spend a minute with her friends. So, from now they don’t call her to go out, to spend some time with them. Her aims are to be the leader in the field she wants. Sometimes she has headaches, pains in the back, insomnia, but she forgets all that when she imagines herself sitting in the bosses chair. It will be late when the ambitious woman will realize what she has missed in her life.
Example for a man
He is 45 year old enthusiastic man. His flattery has brought him to a manager of a company. Of course this is not enough for him, he wants more and more. This way he puts his marriage and family on the borders of loosing. His wife does not understand that the job and the money are in first place for him, and the family and her are of secondary meaning. He is only interested if his children bring positive grades. He avoids the conversations with his wife with the excuse of his job.
It all begins since the youth
The development of the ambitions starts since the childhood. Those kids which were extolled for every little thing now are developed in ambitious persons. That’s completely normal, but sadly in this stage the children could become sickly ambitions. As soon the parents are going to implant the feeling that they would love them only when they are flourishing, the children would evolve a need to be successful in any way.
The boundaries between the normal and the sick ambition are defined by the psychiatrist this way: “Ambition plays an important role in the stabilization of our consciousness. However, the one who doesn’t have inner stabilization, he is often extremely ambitions, because the feeling of self value he searches in the valuation only from the other people.
These kinds of people strive to confession at all costs and that’s why they are ready to do everything. Usually they follow their aims without thinking if they are big torture for the surrounding in which they are. The excessive ambition leads to fanatic wish to be the best ever and everywhere. Every form of conversation with other people is subordinated on striving to leave a great impression. This way they leave off the honesty and the wilingness to help. The passion rules with these people and it’s not abandoned in any situation in their life, in the job, in the sport, in the vacations and even in the sex life. That one which will make his life addicted by ambitions, he will have difficulties in the trivial things.
There are always new and new goals that should be achieved in life, but they always pass, they don’t last forever. The biggest and worst price that should be paid for the extreme ambition is solitude. At the end he wouldn’t have now one to praise and admire their success.