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How to educate a happy child
One happy child is a condition for a happy life. So this means that we must spare our child’s from negative experiences and problems. Also it’s not possible neither right to ham with our protection. The children will start feeling like prisoners on relation to the outer world. The best choice is finding a way to fit into the child a sense of optimism and certitude, feeling which will exist in him/her o matter what is going to happen. There are then rules on which you should pay attention:
Love the child with absoluteness
One of the basic prerequisites for happiness, at least when we were child is the feeling that our parents love us with full absoluteness. It means that even if your child has made some mistake, it does not need to feel thrown away because of some trivial thing. That way it enables to abide the reprehension from the side of the parents, but not to outgrow in a real drama.
Every time you need to feel confident and secure
Yet one basic principle that your child must feel confident and secure in its own house. It’s also the psychological confidence that is important for the child. In order to develop it, the parents need to considerate his/her opinion, to show interest for what he works, in a word to treat him like an adult. Besides it’s also a great prominence to be clear and serious, to explain what needs to be done, trying to be consistent in what you have told and never lie to him.
Respect his feeling for judgment
Who tells that adults are always right about all the things? Even the parents should be sincere sometimes and admit their own mistakes. The children have indigenous sense for judgment. If we always ignore their reasons, it’s starting to evolve frustration and anger, and in a matter of time their confidence is starting to break apart, rapine behavior is starting to develop. As much the child feels that it’s treated well and respected, he starts to respect you also and the others around him.
Playing is not a loosing of time
Playing relaxes and helps with the developing and growing of your child. It doesn’t need the whole day to be filled with tasks and activities like going to additional courses for foreign languages etc. The break assists in settling the thoughts and knowledge. At the adults it’s said “Quality time for me”.
Lack of love and respect is not an option
Except for love of the parents, the child needs to receive love also from the people which are important for him, for example the teacher or the coach. At this age, the children are looking their selves exactly how the others are looking at them. Even later is developing a sense for self respect at them.
If you love him, then show him
It’s not so easy for the child to understand if someone really loves him. Except the hugging and the tenderness, the love to him should be shown with concrete acts. Sometimes it’s good if we can bring into some tasks and decisions. In that case we are giving him the significance that we really count of him or her.
Friends, the more the better
When the child will say: “This is my friend”, for him this is of great prominence a source of pleasure. When he is still young, he doesn’t really understand the true meaning of the friendship, instead for the quantity of the friends he has. But in the elder ages it will help him a lot if he keeps the friends he has had in the youth.
NO for the caprice, YES for the wishes
The thing what makes the child satisfied is that to be successful among his friends (Isn’t that as important as the adults think!). The success in this age means that the others are delighted by his moves and follow everything what he does. If the parents are going to worry about that, they should not, it’s just a growing stage that will soon pass.
Happiness and the material certitude
There is no point to moralize with your ten years old child that the material things are not the key of happiness. That doesn’t mean that we are going to educate our child to be a money waster. There should be placed some boundaries. But still we should have in mind that if our child does not have some item that other have, then he would fill quite different from the others.
Let him use his body
Children have need to run, swim, in a word to move all the time. The parents task is to courage them in those king of activities, they must respect, but also to learn how to be careful themselves. In a smallest sign of fatigue, the parents should react, because those are the moments when the injuries are most often. Also the child should know when to stop.